...for all pairs of lovers without exception, bereavement is a universal
and integral part of our experience of love. It follows marriage as
normally as marriage follows courtship or as autumn follows summer. It is
not a truncation of the process but one of its phases; not the interruption
of the dance, but the next figure. We are `taken out of ourselves' by the
loved one while she is here. Then comes the tragic figure of the dance in
which we must learn to be still taken out of ourselves though the bodily
presence is withdrawn, to love the very Her, and not fall back to loving
our past, or our memory, or our sorrow, or our relief from sorrow, or our
own love. -- C.S. Lewis, "A Grief Observed"
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